You have the power to control your thoughts and emotions.
How to control your thoughts and emotions
Who decides what you think?
How you think determines your feelings
that means it is up to you how you feel and react.
You have the choice of how you want to feel because you control your thoughts and your feelings. It does do not need extended training to change it, that will happen in an instant.
First, determine how you feel, whether you are anxious, angry or jealous?
Now, ask yourself: How would I like to feel?
Ask yourself: How do I decide to feel?
These questions should make you aware that you have the choice. You are not at the mercy of your feelings, but you are influencing them by your thoughts.
Negative thoughts or feelings may come to you out of the blue, but when they are there, you have the choice whether you stay with them or you change them.
Now ask yourself: How should I or could I feel, to make me feel like I want to feel?
Let’s look at an example.
Suppose you walk through the city, and suddenly something hits you, which makes you stumble.
You turn around annoyed and see a blind kid who had stumbled and fell on you.
What will happen to your anger?
It immediately will disappear in one second. Your anger will blow away, and you feel calm and compassionate.
In this example, you can see how quick feelings can change in an eye blink. You can see that attitudes can change quickly and it does not take days or weeks to react calmly. You can use this fact to change your negative feelings.
When was the last time you have been annoyed and how long did the emotions last?
Let’s say you want to meet with a friend. He comes half an hour late, and you are annoyed. Now you can decide if you’re going to stay upset all the time or forget and forgive and enjoy the day with him.
You have decided to take the matter calmly; you realize that people are not perfect and that mistakes happen. Making mistakes is human and cannot be avoided.
If you now think about your friend being late and letting you wait for, your rage vanishes. You ask him to be punctual the next time
You transformed you feeling of anger into serenity, composure, by changing your attitude.
By changing your thoughts, you have changed your feelings.
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“Change the way you look at things and the things you look at will change.” ~ Wayne Dyer
Be conscious and practice this when you have negative thoughts and emotions. You have the power over your mind.
“If you are not taking responsibility for your state of consciousness, you are not taking responsibility for life.” ~ Eckhart Tolle
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So much truth here. We are responsible for what we believe and how we think.
Hi Nancy,
yes, we are responsible and we are more powerful than we think.
Thank you for your comment
Erika
Hi Erika,
Great post. I was thinking as I read it; “It’s way too easy for some reason to fall into a negative mindset. Changing that mindset does require some effort but it is so worth it for so many reasons.”
Sometimes it is hard but there can be something positive come from a negative situation. I’ve lived that road myself the last 6 or 8 months.
Thanks so much for sharing.
Hi Monna,
there is always something to learn in life. Negative situations are the way for us to gain experience and grow. Life is all about the experience.
The important point here is to stay hopeful and positive. We have the power to not get stuck in negativity and change our thinking and emotions with awareness.
You did it right and got out of the situation.
Keep it up
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Erika
Erika,
I love how you said, “You are not at the mercy of your feelings, but you are influencing them by your thoughts.” I’ve come to realize that my feelings change more frequently than the wind does. Sometimes it’s a gentle thing, and other times, it’s similar to a hurricane. But I can control them, change them, and use them to motivate me to better things. Thanks so much for this; I loved it. ~ Johanna
Great to hear that you are able to change your feelings and use them to motivate.
This is a powerful ability and makes life easier.
Thank you for sharing your thoughts
Erika
Hi Erika mam, Yes positive thinking makes our mind powerful and it is necessary for our daily life. Taking things in positives save the relationship, friendship and many more in life.
It is powerful, Sazia, to know how we can change our emotions and thoughts, and you are right it can save relationships as well.
Thank you for your comment
Erika
Yeah … I definitely have to be better at this!
Many have to do better at this, life would be more pleasant:)
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Wow , you are fix my big problem and you are nice speaker . your tips about how to control your thoughts and emotions are really impressive
Thank you for sharing this precious knowledge with us
I am glad that this helps to fix your problem.
Everybody who is aware and knows how to change has a powerful tool for life.
Thank you for your comment
Erika
Controlling our thoughts and emotions may be difficult but an impossible task and your article is the proof of it. Positivity helps in controlling our thoughts and makes our mind capable of doing the right things. Stay away from negativity is one of the best solutions to control our emotions.
It is possible to change thought and emotion in a very short time, knowing this gives us the power to control our thoughts.
Thank you for your comment
Erika
Hi Erika,
I like the analogy you have given by being pushed in the city by a blind person. We can go from being annoyed to compassionate so quickly. This is why we have to understand we have so much control in our minds. Whenever I get annoyed, I don’t like to stay in that negative space. I give myself a moment breath into my heart and it goes away. I like to stay in a positive energy as much as I can.
-Donna
Awareness of your emotions and making choices. Learning Mindful Meditation has been the greatest teacher, for me, in being aware of my emotions and how to control them.. I can let go og things way easier than ever .. wonderful post my friend 🙂
Hi Erika,
I like your examples. The majority of people do not bother to purposefully direct their thoughts; consequently their thoughts tend to be filled with what the world fills their minds with. A mind filled on crap from this world will be almost entirely negative
Very nice article and love to read this personal development post. I think Self-discipline is the key to control everything.
Hi Vekatesh,
you are right discipline is important and being aware of what you think because if needed you can change things by changing your perception.
Thank you
Erika
Hi Erika,
Powerful article, I like how you said “feelings are much like waves, we can’t stop them from coming but we can choose which one to surf”.
Hi Maggie,
I am glad you liked the article.
Yes, if we are aware of our feelings we have the choice.
Thank you
Erika
First of all thanks for giving your time and effort to this article.I liked the way you explained the points in a easy manner.I think it will help me in Controlling my thoughts and emotions.
Hi Edward Thomas
I am glad you liked the article. Hopefully helps you to control your thoughts and emotions and have a blissful life.
To your Happiness
Erika
This has been a really wonderful article.
I am happy you liked the article. Hopefully, it was helpful for you.
Thank you
Nice read! We should introspect our thoughts, recognize the patterns, check how they lead us behave and how common it is. We can learn to manage our anger that way,
Subrata,
you got it. Hopefully, you can control your thoughts and manage to have a more joyful life.
Thanks for your comment.
Its all about the power of positivity, make sure to get your positive affirmations to start manifesting! Thank You
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Right, but it does not work without implementing and taking action
Thank you for providing these details.
You are welcome, Daniels
My sister is looking to become better at her emotional health and be more positive. It would be really nice for her to get a coach to help motivate and inspire her. It was interesting to learn about how changing your thoughts can change your feelings.
Hi Jenna,
emotional health is important in our time, many become depressed in a stressful life.
Finding a good coach would help. But as you see there are ways to better control this and by paying attention and being aware of thoughts, it can be changed over time.
Thank you for your comment
Erika
My mother had emotionally weak, now she comes back.
Glad to hear that your mother is going to be better.
Thank you
Erika