Do you let yourself influence by fear or love?
Do you realize when an influence tries to scare or love you? Are you aware or do you get affected easily? Being aware of the energy and feelings will help to stay centered and prevents that you get manipulated. Many people these days have difficulties with this and let themselves be controlled by media, scared people, and circumstances.
In this guest post, our friend Ryan Biddulph will share his rules and how he handles the influence who tries to scare or love you.
Thank you, Ryan
Does It Try to Scare You Or Love You?
I have a general rule.
Observing influences, I ask myself if the influence tries to scare me or love me?
Sounds funny, right? But this simple question brought me peace of mind, calm, freedom, and love, unlike any other practice. I stopped following the news based on asking this simple question. News media attempts to scare me with the illusion of fear. I stopped watching the news because I give my attention and energy to loving influences.
Asking this question of humans feels uncomfortable sometimes. Friends, family, and casual acquaintances may have scared you for years but you were unaware of their scary influence. Ask the question now. Wait for an honest answer. Release people who try to scare you with fear. Keep around people who shower love and support onto you.
The Confusing Difference
Some family and friends who love you may attempt to scare the heck out of you. Parents seem to be the biggest offenders in this regard. Minimize contact with loving people who warn you, scare you, and attempt to dissuade you from doing what you love doing because family and friends fear for your safety, comfort, or general well-being.
Imagine being a world traveler. Picture your mom or dad deeply fearing for your safety as you circle the globe. Appreciate their concern but limit contact with any human being who tries to fill your mind with images of fear, attempting to frighten you out of living your dreams. Surround yourself with people who shower you with love, support, and good vibes. Even though it feels confusing to deal with loving people who try to scare you we all know when it’s time to break away from people – family or not – who are no longer on the same wavelength.
Align to Shine
Align yourself with people, places, and things resonant with your dreams. Surround yourself with loving, caring influences. Lose the news. Replace with meditating, reading a book like A Course in Miracles, and ramping up your exercise campaign. Trash low energy entertainment based on the world falling apart, whether movies, TV, or streaming videos. Replace with high energy entertainment, from YouTube, to streaming to movies designed to lift you up, to make you laugh, and to create a sense of peace in you.
Everything in life is alignment. Where your attention and energy goes, grows. I spend a hefty portion of my day aligning with high energy activities, people, and things to manifest more love and freedom in my life.
I also become hyper-aware of low energy influences, dropping lower energies like a hot potato. Our current location offers regular cable TV versus internet TV. Even though I watch streaming on my laptop I simply turned on the TV for the first time in a decade to see what the experience felt like. I turned off the TV within 5 minutes after observing fear-based, manipulative commercials for politicians, prescription drugs, and reality TV. Politicians and drug companies attempt to scare you into action. The entertainment industry largely wants to scare you into believing you’re missing out if you do not tune in to the latest reality TV show, to fill an assumed void in your life.
Observe influences in your life. Does it scare you or love you? Let go of the scarers and keep the loving influences around.
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Hi Erika,
Like you, I cannot watch T.V. All those fear based commercials just lower the vibration in the whole house! Sometimes everything seems upside down when I observe commercials, and social media. I can’t tell you how fast I got at scrolling fear based posts on the social media platform.
Indeed its important to align ourselves and keep in the love energy. I can safely say that I have gotten rid of the negative, fearful, and confrontational people in my life from friends to even a few clients. Wonderful message!
-Donna
Hi Donna,
I do not have a TV for at least 15 years. It is enough hype what we see in social media. Fear-based commercials do not affect me anymore. They rather make me laugh and amused as I know what is behind it. But I know that many people really get scared. I too got rid of unpleasant people who only steal energy. I learned to keep myself in good energy. Let’s stay with love, love always wins.
Thank you for your comment
Erika
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Hello Erika and Ryan,
An awesome post. Thanks again Ryan for sharing this inspirational post with us.
Yes completely agree with you surrounding ourselves with positive vibes and with the caring and loving influences is very important for us to shine.
Dont allow yourself to get influenced by people or circumstances or negativity that scares you, give all your attention and energy to loving influences.
Very well said and I too believe, “where your attention and energy goes, grows” so keep alligned yourself with positive vibes. Keep sharing your inspirational words.
Thanks & Regards,
-Rijhu.
Just surround yourself with people who gives you possitive vibes and not the negative ones. But if you do know someone, don’t let them affect you.
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After many days read such a beautiful article, Really we should love & take care of our Surround and by the same time, we should spread positivity.
Hi Rijhu,
Yes let’s keep our vibes positive and stay with people that uplift us.
Thank you for your comment
Erika
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Yes, Ismail,
Surround yourself with supporting and positive people.
Thank you
Erika
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Thanks for sharing a useful and informative post
Sometimes I scare me a lot, so reading this was really interesting and important. Thanks!