Live The Life You Want
Romil Rambhad tells you how you can achieve to live the life you want in his guest post.
Romil Rambhad is the author of THE 20 POWERFUL KEYS TO A BETTER LIFE
In his book he states; “My aim is to reach people to live a pleasant and extraordinary life, creating inner peace, enthusiasm, and a life full of abundance in every sphere of life”.
And he is right “Your Mind is the seed for transformation you desire”
Read and follow his helpful advice and implement it to transform your life!
Live the Life you want
The occasional punch in the face by reality is good for us. Case in point: on occasion, you’ll do, or not do, what you want because you’re concerned with what other people think. And it’s holding you back.
No matter the “why” the truth is, at some point, we base our actions and decisions on how we anticipate other people will perceive us. As a result, we don’t always do the things we want to do, because we’re afraid of what others will think.
Why do we care so much about other people’s opinions, even those of total strangers?
Why do we do things, or not do things, because of how we expect others to react?
I’ll kick this off with a disclaimer. It’s beneficial to have opinions from a few people you can trust to tell you if you’re doing something bat-crap crazy or to encourage you to take a risk.
My analysis of these events was the same: do something different from everyone else and you’ll be berated. Better to fit in.
Unfortunately, I allowed a lot of opportunities to pass me by, simply because I cared too much about what other people would think or say. I would often not be true to myself or do the things that would make me happy, out of fear of how other people might react.
Perhaps you can relate: When was the last time you didn’t do what you wanted because you cared more about what other people would think?
Probably more frequently than you like to admit.
Practical Ways to Not Care What Other People Think
Let’s jump into the guide to not giving a damn about what others think, and live the life you want.
1. Stop Negative Labelling
Just because you procrastinated once, well okay, maybe two or three times, don’t say to yourself I’m a procrastinator. If you messed something up don’t say I’m stupid. If someone left you, don’t say I’m unlovable. Don’t be so willing to put yourself in a box. You’re not a one-dimensional being. You’re greater than that.
How would your life benefit by letting go of past unsupportive labels?
Tell yourself I am creative, I am amazing, I am successful, I am joyful, I am loved. Sometimes being willing to change the labels you’ve given yourself is all you need to open yourself to the next phase of your journey, to see yourself and your world with new eyes.
2. Remember, most people aren’t paying much attention
People spend more time thinking about themselves than thinking about others. If they’re expressing an opinion about your life, it’s probably not something they’ve given much thought to but just a passing thought.
3. Desensitize your triggers
Are you too sensitive for your own good? Do you get triggered when people say things about you that you know aren’t even true? It’s easy for a sensitive nature to blow things out of proportion, but try to build the thick skin that lets you shake it off.
4. Opinions are always changing
Never allow the opinions of others to get too deep, because people can change at any given moment. If you’ve overinvested in an earlier opinion, it can leave you in the lurch when the person changes their mind.
5. Build your opinion of yourself
Don’t care what people see in you. Oftentimes, the reason we care what others think of us is that we see ourselves through their eyes…but it’s not good for us to base our opinion of ourselves solely on what others think of us. The best thing you can do to not care what others think of you is to build your opinion of yourself. Do things that make you proud of yourself so that no matter what they say, you know that you are a good, worthwhile person.
6. Realize that it won’t matter in the long run
It is also important to remember that these people have problems and lives of their own. In five years, they probably won’t even remember you, much less all the things about you that they didn’t like. Their opinions won’t impact you at all just a few years from now. If you spend the meantime enjoying your life and taking advantage of your opportunities, you will be much happier in the long run than if you waste a bunch of time trying to gain the good opinion of people you probably won’t even see any more in a few years.
7. Trust a few opinions, but forget the rest
There’s freedom in being true to yourself and not caring about what other people think. However, it is important to trust a select few to share their opinions with you, or people you can go to when you need to talk.
Have a few close people you can confide in; people who you know have your best interest at heart.
Personally, I can count on one hand the number of people’s opinions in my life that has an effect on me. And what about other people or total strangers who feel the need to tell me what they think about me, my body, and my life? They don’t matter.
8. Some people are going to dislike you, and there’s nothing you can do about it
Don’t waste your time trying to get everyone to like you, because it’s impossible. Instead of worrying about who doesn’t like you, focus on being a better person for those who do.
Spend your time and energy living an awesome life and using your talents, gifts, and abilities to make the world and people around you better.
Let other people like you not because of who you’re trying to be, but because of who you genuinely are. Or, as I like to say …I’d rather be hated for who I truly am than loved for something I’m pretending to be.
Finally, please practice this with other people too. If you find yourself judging or gossiping about others, please stop. Let’s focus instead on becoming the best versions of ourselves and encourage others to do the same, even if it’s a different way than us.
Thank you, Romil Rambhad, may your advice help many people to transform their life.
About the Author
Romil Rambhad is a Self-improvement Author and Life Coach.
Link to Courses and Books visit Romil Rambhad Self Mastery Academy
Check out his courses on Skillshare
You can find his book here >THE 20 POWERFUL KEYS TO A BETTER LIFE
Here is his story
I have an Engineering background and a Masters’s in Management. After working in the corporate world for 5 years, from being an Engineer to looking after the Company’s Business Development and later starting my business. Nothing leads me to the feeling of fulfillment.
While working on my business, I started writing articles that led to a beautiful book that I had never thought of writing. This book has provided me the opportunity to touch many people’s lives and have a positive influence on people; I have started coaching people to achieve their goals and overcome their traumas. I have been always a curious learner about psychology and the human mind; this curiosity did lead me to learn ancient meditation techniques, NLP (Neuro-linguistic programming), and Reiki (Energy Healing). Nevertheless, I am still learning as every individual is unique, the same strategy doesn’t apply to all.
I have been fortunate to find so beautiful path which helps people to solve their problems and I never feel like I am working as I am totally in love with the process.
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many especially young people are not doing what they really want, because they are listening too much to other people’s opinions instead to follow their hearts.
It is good to be aware of this and you give good advice in this article. It is a process to get confident enough to live the life you want to live.
Because no matter how hard we try, we can never please everyone. Better is to follow our hearts, do the best we can and take responsibility for what we do.
It will make us proud of who we are and we will care less about other people’s opinions.
It may take time but it is good to follow your advice.
Absolutely Erika, You are right. As humans we look for validation from others that we are right, so WE ARE ACCEPTED by Everyone else from people who don’t know themselves nor their goals. We are conditioned from childhood to think this way.
Any Youth who want to achieve their goals need to break this mental barrier. And it is possible, i have done it and Everyone else can too. They need is Powerful Support who can listen and show them their true potential.
I am happy many people have benefited by my book and one to one coaching and will continue to do it until my last breath.
You are right, Romil it is possible to break mental barriers. Especially with the support of somebody like you who already did it and has the experience.
All the best
Romil, you hit on awesome points here bro. Great stuff. Some like you. Some do not. Live not for approval, but for chasing your dreams and for living a life of service. Great happiness is found in service. Plus, you lose the need to gain approval or acceptance from others. Because you accept yourself.
Thank you Ryan and I am really glad you liked the Article. Being true to oneself and accepting ourself very few individuals are able to do, while its worth the battle fighting for. Chasing one’s deeam that so which is able to help so many people provides me so much energy.
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Thank you Romil, for this succinct list of common-sense points. I think on one level, most of us know these things deep down, but it’s so difficult to apply them to ourselves and our moments of negativity to the degree that they help us interpret the world in a way that is not at times crippling. Point two is a really key one for many sensitive people – in one way it’s quite harsh, but ultimately very liberating to accept!
you are right, deep down we all know. We only need to learn to listen to our hearts. It is true in certain circumstances and situations it can be very difficult to find the right way. Especially for young people, but this is for a reason. It gives life experience if we look behind we often can see it. Every difficulty makes us stronger. And as Romil said most people have their own struggles and it is better not to pay to much attention what they say.And you are right it seems harsh and liberating if we get aware of this. Good to have somebody to talk in hart times who is without judgment.
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This is very nicely articulated by you and I cannot agree more. I have spent my teens and twenties doing all those things you said not to do. I have cared alot about what others think and kept myself, my choices, opinions and wants many steps back. Now when I am about to enter 30’s I realise in long term nothing of that matters- as you said. And nobody cares about the sacrifices you made on your part to please them. Keep writing such amazing stuff.
it is true if we get older we have more life experience and see that other people’s opinion does not matter and does not help us. I always recommend young people to follow their hearts and learn to listen to the intuition. This is our inner guidance and feels always good. It is important to let go of the past and to free ourselves from guild. If you have somebody who does not judge you, listen and talk to them. A big help is Meditation 🙂
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i love this particular sentense so much…”Don’t waste your time trying to get everyone to like you, because it’s impossible. Instead of worrying about who doesn’t like you, focus on being a better person for those who do”. Nice information, its really helpful.
Yes, it is right we can not please everyone.
We always better try to improve ourselves despite what others think of us.
I am glad you found Romil’s article helpful
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wow …nice and best content ever I found on a website ….
Good, you like the content, Hari
But read the articles I gave you and learn how to comment in a way that benefits you.
Usually, I delete comments like this
from today i Tell myself I am creative, I am amazing, I am successful, I am joyful, I am loved. That will help me live the life i want. Thanks for this updates. I will check back for more.
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Hello Good Evening Thank you for sharing this post . I Think These are the best ways to live the life as we want . Anyone can implement this concepts in their life and can see the change that happen in life. Once again thanks a lot for sharing this post and keep doing this great work . Thank you so much.
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you are right, these are the best ways to get started to create a life you want.
There is only the need to act on it and implement it and it may take a bit time,
but you sure can create the life you want.
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It is always challenging for anyone to take a route which is not followed by many and the thing is we are conditioned from childhood to be a part of crowd and follow what everyone else is doing.
I am really glad you are able to relate with the article.
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I am happy that you can find helpful content on my blog.
This is the purpose of this blog to make people think and hopefully, they have helpful insights.
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I am glad you liked Romil’s post and hope it will help you to live the life you want.
Hey Eriks great joy to be here after a bit Gap।
Hope you and yours are doing well।
Great to read Romila s post। Very inspiring one।
Well written and a thought provoking one
Wish you both a great thinner ahead।
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nice to see you back.
We are doing well, I hope the same for you.
Yes, Romils post is inspiring and right for this time.
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All the best
I agree with most of the things that he said just wanna to add being pragmatic has it’s own value when it comes to living life.
All other things we can slowly figure them out as we move ahead
Life is always full of possibilities & the experiences that makes you who you’re and that’s how it works
It was a Great article by Romil
Thanks for Sharing 🙂
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Hi Romil andErika
I know so many who care of what others think, especially of their work. I’ve counseled people who feared the risk of getting online and doing videos. Others will ask me to read over their blog posts before they publish it because they have that fear of what others will think. I like to always give advice that we must search our soul and write from the heart. There are many problems in every niche, but giving people a little push and say it’s OK to feel that way at first, then giving them comments and shares boosts their confidence.
Yes, many are concerned about what others think and are scared to take action. But I think most people are too worried about their own problems and do not pay that much attention. And you are right with your advice and that some need only a little push and over time they will get more confident. I see often that you do awesome with your support.
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Thanks for taking time and reading this article, I totally agree with you. We as social people like to validate from others and have some fears of not accepting what we do or what we say but when we do things from heart and soul these things doesn’t matter much as we in ourselves have that inner confidence which is required.
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