Here I will introduce you to my young blogger friend Awazie Ikechi .
He lives in Lagos Nigeria and got inspired by great men and women
who made changes in the world read his story here on his blog Awazie Ikechi
As he said on his blog ,he woke up one morning and decided to make a change and
a difference in the world.
And he really does ,if you visit his blog you will be inspired ,he is an excellent
storyteller and you sure you will love his stories and they will make you think.
Visit his blog Awazie Ikechi -Be A Light To The World and he sure is a
light to the world .
Read the post he created below and get inspired by his thought provoking
storytelling talent .
What You Shouldn’t Do When You Feel Like Quitting
James was about to make the most important decision in his life. He was just about to divorce
his essence.
He had just about had it with life. It was just unfair and so biased. Nature was just so cruel.
It decided whose life was lucky and whose life fell down the drain.
James had pleaded with life to have mercy on him. He had begged life to give him much
abundance and had called on its power, the law of attraction.
But alas, it had been silent and allowed him to face so many challenges that he couldn’t bear.
So he decided enough is enough; there was no point going on. He was just about ready to throw
in the towel and allow challenges to create his story.
If only James had taken some certain decisions, he might have turned out different.
If only James had gotten rid of certain beliefs, he would probably not have been
thinking about quitting?
1 Thinking about People who Quit Always
Whenever James faced a certain challenge, he had people to look up to. These people were his
mentors; his giants whom he could climb their shoulders,
These mentors were the ones whom he could rely on when he couldn’t figure it which direction
to follow. They were his guides.
But with these arsenals of people, James never seemed to make any progress in his life. Each
time he thought about his role models, all he wanted to do was quit.
He lost his passion for moving on.It seemed that his mentors fed him with so many negative
thoughts that he had come to trust their philosophy and wasn’t ready to question their beliefs.
What do you think these mentors fed to James’s mind?
#FoodForThought:
Think of Someone Who Didn’t Quit. There are people in your life who are
where you want to be. Think about them.
2 Focusing on Weakness and Doubting your Abilities
James never thinks highly of his talents. He believes he is nothing special. While most people
wonder why James can’t see his unique abilities. He sees himself as a void in his world.
It is no wonder he is never motivated to make a difference.
All he sees is his weakness; all that is before him is his mistakes.He has always doubted his
ability and is never afraid to show it to everyone.
His performance is determined by comparing himself with others and his worth
is based on external validation.
This is why James inner self has suffered from so much neglect that it can’t sync with James.
It is so hard for James to see what is within.
#FoodForThought
Trust in your ability to grow, learn and adapt. Making mistakes isn’t failure.
Success is learning from your experience and making amends.
Don’t be afraid to take your talents beyond its limit.
3 Creating Unrealistic Goals
James has big dreams. His dream is meant to make a difference to the world. His dream is
supposed to help people to solve their problems. His dream is meant to break barriers that
everyone thought was impossible.
But James keeps talking about his dream. When people ask him why his dream isn’t a reality,
he reveals that he is waiting for things to come together before this goal can be achieved.There
has to be a moment; a sign for his dream to come to reality.
Unfortunately, James has neither a plan nor has he taken any action. So when the big moments
don’t appear and he can’t achieve his dreams, James blames it all on external factors.
#Food for thought
“Keep big goals at the back of your mind and the next imperfect steps in the front of your mind”. Dan Rockwell
The Journey to achieving your dreams begins with a step.
Little goals are easier to achieve than big unrealistic goals.
Achieving little goals gets you faster to your big vision.
Remember Goals aid you to learn from the process and not on
the result.
4 Exhausting Yourself Being the Best You
If there is one thing that James is known for, it is that he works so hard to a
fault.James is never satisfied with anything. Some people see him as a perfectionist
because he seems to push himself and wants everything so perfect.
He never tracks his progress; he disregards the help of others and never takes the time to recharge.
He fears rivalry and collaboration is an abomination.
He never seems to be grateful for anything and believes the world owes him so much. So it is for
anything and believes the world owes him so much. So it is no wonder that he has experienced
high dosage of anxiety and depression.
#FoodForThought
Always track your progress. It is great to be able to celebrate small wins
and then focus on what is next. Learn to recharge as your body and mind
need to be in a healthy state at all times.
An unhealthy mind is a workshop for negative thoughts and poor productivity.
5 Focusing on What You Can’t Change
When James was much younger, he was told that he had a single purpose on earth and if he
could find that purpose he would succeed in life.
However, as James grew, he found out that he had so many passions and he couldn’t figure
out his single purpose.
James was so frustrated with this fact and has since then, tried so hard to find his single purpose.
However, the more he tries to discover his single purpose, the more he keeps hurting his essence.
In trying to discover his single purpose, everything in his life has suffered tremendously.
James could not see how his passions could make a difference in his life. He did not know that
he could combine his passions to make a difference. All he wanted to do was just to figure out his
single purpose.
#FoodForThought
Don’t focus on things you can’t change.
It is best to put your energy on those things that you can change.
Over To You
It is not surprising why James would want to give up on life but what about you?
What decisions have you made when you are on the verge of quitting?
What decisions have helped you to face your challenges?
Please share your thoughts and comments below.
Hi Erika.
Thanks for giving the opportunity to make a difference to your readers.
I do know that they value this wisdom as we can all relate to this situation.
I will be waiting to see the comments and responses.
Have a wonderful weekend. Take care
Hi Ikechi ,
I thank you for your great article ,
I am sure the readers will find value in it
and saw Monna already got help from it.
You did wrap your teaching very nice in a story.
It is not good to compare ourselves ,we are all
unique ,this we have to realize, we can look up to
mentors,but we should know we can make a difference
ourselves and as you say combine our passions, it has
not to be a single one ,the combination often makes the
difference. Before making a decision it is better to
take time and think twice.
Thank you ,you did beautiful
Erika
Hi Erika and Awazie,
This hit home for me today. I still struggle at times to figure out my purpose. It seems as though I finally figure it out, something goes wrong. I had a great post almost ready for my blog and things just fell apart with it.
So I’m not making any decisions right now about that post but stepping back and taking another look tomorrow.
Thanks for the great post and making me think before I hit the delete button.
Hi Monna ,
great, this post of Ikechi helped you to take a second look.
Always good the step back and leave things a day or two.
All the best
Erika
Hi Monna
I am glad you decided to look at your post from another angle and thank you so much for the compliment. I am glad the post was able to inspire you. Take care and have a wonderful weekend. Thanks
Hi Erika and Ikechie, there are so many great points in this post. I am concerned that anyone with a mentor should find themselves in this position. They need a new mentor!! Mentors should be supporting you when the going gets tough and helping you to work through those times and achieve your best. It’s hard to get yourself up when you are down but having support and a great mentor can work wonders in those times.
Enjoy the journey!
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Hi Mandy ,
you are right a mentor has to support and uplift.
I think maybe Ikechi meant more an Ideal ?
A real mentor which one can communicate with
really can help in such situations and if not
it has to be changed ,it was not the right one .
Thank you for your comment
Erika
Hi Mandy
Yeah! It is a big concern but sadly many people hold on to role models that don’t bring out the best in them. Rather than seek new mentors, people want to stick to their shell. Thanks for sharing your insight. Have a wonderful week. Take Care
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Hi Erika and Ikechi,
I love the way you have written this about ‘James” because these are emotions we all sometimes face.
What stuck out to me best was when we feel like throwing in the towel, we need to look at others that never give up. I think it is because I don’t give up easily. I have face so many life challenges, I probably can write a book….but no matter how down I was, I never gave up. Fighting your way through any kind of “darkness” in life can give you so many lessons. It only makes you stronger. It is like a re-birth sometimes. And that is what keeps us going.
If we give up, we might find ourselves regretting, feeling worse, doubting ourselves more than ever, or even fall into a deep depression.
When I’m down, I do have the greatest mentor of all…God. Because I do believe I am never alone.
-Donna
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Hi Donna ,
I agree with you ,throwing the towel is
not the right thing to do. There is always
a way and there is always an answer to any problem.
Your greatest Mentor is with us all,all we need faith.
Thank you for your insights and your comment.
Erika
Hi Donna
Yeah! I do know that you are a fighter and don’t give up easily. Sadly there are people who would throw in the towel when they are faced with some challenges. God is indeed a great mentor and he is the one who will give you rest when faced with difficulties.
Thank you Donna for your awesome insight. Have a wonderful week.
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Erika,
They say a story really helps to keep the readers engaged. So true. I loved hearing about James. You could easily have just stated the 5 negative habits but it would not have had the same impact. I have several friends online who keep hoping, dreaming, studying with new and different mentors and getting confused and overwhelmed. But when it comes to action, they are still hesitating, still waiting to have the perfect system in place that will make the whole process easy. What I have discovered is that it is not easy, not for a long time. We have to take the actions, make the mistakes, struggle, spend too much time, spend too much money – just do it and the right steps, the right processes, the right mentors and assistants will eventually appear. When the student is ready, the teacher appears. When the action taker is ready, the assistance arrives.
Thanks for a thought-provoking post.
Warmly,
Dr. Erica
Hi Erika
Yeah! you got me Erika. I could have told you how to avoid negative habts but I do believe that stories have a way of relaying the message.
I agree that action is what we need to make a difference. It is better to have imperfect steps and learn from the experience than to have no steps at all.
Thanks for sharing your insight and have a wonderful week.
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Hi Erica ,
you said it right ,”When the student is ready, the teacher appears. ”
and there is always a way and help if one takes action . A perfect system
will never come. I too liked Ikechi’s post he is doing great with his story .
Thank you for the comment
Erika
Hey Ikechi and Erika,
What a great post and I can relate to James. Yes there were times where I felt like quitting myself but I got back to realization that there’s so much info and potential that I have yet to tap into.
You have to come to grips to youself, slow down and ponder what you can do to keep improving. That’s when I decided to do one thing at a time by breaking my goals down into bite size pieces. At the same time I only focused on what I really enjoyed doing and what were giving me better results.
Thanks for the share Ikechi! Have a great week ahead!
Hi Sherman
Thank you for the compliment.
I can relate to your story. I too at a point in time wanted to give up on life but I relised that it would not be cool if I did such. Besides what legacy would I leave behind If I throw in the towel. So whenever, I have that feeling, I remind myself of the strong why.
Thank you so much for sharing your insight. Take Care
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Hi Sherman ,
nice to see you here 🙂
Ikechi really did write about the feeling of quitting in a nice story .
Good if one can look behind circumstances and see the possibilities.
Focusing on what you really enjoy doing is the right thing to do.
Thank you for sharing your experience .
Keep enjoying what you do
Erika
Hi Erika,
It’s really great to see Ikechi here on your blog. I must say that its is really an inspirational post. I have learned some new things for sure.Simply, you have done a great job.
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Hi Robin
Thank you so much for the compliment. I am glad that you are inspired by this post and you got some insight. Thanks for sharing. Take Care
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You are right Robin,
Ikechi did really write a thought provoking story .
It makes one learn through new thoughts and a different view.
I am glad you liked it
thank you
Erika
This article is really inspiring & uplifting ❤ ..great views my friend ikechi & Erika . Keep going on
Hi Deepak ,
I am glad Ikechi’s post inspired you ,I think this is what it was meant to do.
We will keep going and hope you too 🙂
Thanks for your comment and visit
Erika
Hi Deepak
Thank you for the compliment. Take Care
Hi Erika and Ikechie,
We all have those moments in our lives, and it can get very hard to move on sometimes.
It is important to hang in there and believe in yourself, and never give up on your passion.
This is the place where the real ‘You’ lives and your duty is to let it out and share with the world,
no matter how long it takes.
Thank you for sharing!
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Hi Emi
Thanks Emi for the awesome insight. Have a wonderful week.
Hi Emi,
you are right ,it can get hard ,but we have to keep going ,
to reach the goal, how sad would it be to let go of our passion .
Most people have difficulty to find their passion and as you say
with our passion, we can help and share.
Thank you for your nice comment
Erika
Hello,
I have seen many people having low self-esteem, although they are talented and capable of great things. One thing everyone must learn is not to have the fear of failure.
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Hi Imran,
you are right ,we need to see that failure is only
another way to learn what does not work and use it
as a stepping stone. Fear is what holds most people
back ,it is worry about things which may never happen.
Thank you for your comment
Erika
Hi Imran
I so agree with you and the fear of failure can make remain in our comfort zone which is not required to make a difference. Thanks for the awesome comment. Take Care
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Hi Erika and Ikechie,
I can relate to so much in this post 🙂
I’m my harshest critic – I would never speak about anyone else like I do myself. Yes, working on it….
Setting unrealistic goals and being a perfectionist are other challenges to overcome. It sort of nags at me if I spot something not quite right and I have to fix it. Probably as a result of my computer programming background when it served me well. Less useful now!
But what really struck home for me was your image. A few months ago I got a really critical comment on my blog and I was pretty down that day. I almost deleted my whole blog. What an idiotic thing that would have been! Fortunately I took a deep breath, took a couple of days off. Came back and answered the comment factually and my detractor didn’t return.
Joy – Blogging After Dark
Hi Joy ,
I think you should be more patient with yourself 🙂
If you are aware of this things ,they can be changed ,
do not criticize yourself and take it easier ,nobody
is perfect and we do not have to be. take more often
a deep breath.
All the best
Erika
Thanks for sharing such a motivational post Erika.
That true, we usually start thinking about what we can’t do and what are our weaknesses without even trying to achieve something.
After reading this, a thought from Buddha came to my mind which says Talking about our problems is our greatest addiction. Break the habit, Talk about your joys.
And that works very well, if we begin thinking and talking about the positive things in our lives the whole world gets change suddenly and we stop thinking about quitting and start finding new ways to do a particular task instead.
Thanks for the awesome post. Have a great day ahead.
Cheers,
Shubhanshi 🙂
Hi Shubhanshi,
nice to see you here
I like your quote from Buddha, it is true most people like to talk about the difficulties they face, instead of thinking of the good times in life.
Being grateful is not very popular. No wonder if they get depressed and do not think of the possibilities in life.
It is true thinking about the pleasant things can change everything.
My friend Ikechi did a beautiful job with his guest post.
I am glad it is motivating.
Thanks for your visit and comment.
Erika